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How many too many members of birthfamily for first visit?

We agreed to our first visit with our son's birthfamily (birthmother and birthfamily are all who are listed in the agreement) being at 6 months after placement, which is coming up in May. The birthfather has told us now that they want to have the birthmother, him, his sister and her family of 4, his mother, the birthmother's mother, and some number of her family (she has 15 brothers and sisters) all along on the visit. We feel that this is too many people for a 15-month old (how old he will be at the time) to be crowded by. We don't think they understand that he won't likely remember any of them, especially since he was passed from family member to friend throughout the first 9 months of his life. We are worried that so many people demanding his attention and affection will overwhelm and maybe even frighten him. ...Click here to read more »