Even though we had more regular contact leading up to it, I had a similar nervousness after my son’s first mom took us up on an offer of a longer visit.  It wasn’t a concern for my child’s safety as much as the thought, “What if we can’t stand being in the same house together for all those days?”

I think all we can do is be honest about our nervousness but focus on the excitement.  The longer stays in our home have turned out to be wonderful for our open adoption.  My son’s first parents are able to be a part of his daily routine and really get a sense of his life with us. We adults have gotten to know each other far better than we would have from a string of three-hours visits.  Most importantly, I think they’ve reinforced for our son that these are valued family members, the same way other relatives who visit are.  There was a marked change in his relationship with each of his first parents after their visits.  There is just something unique about longer visits.  And if it goes poorly, at least you’ll know to approach future visits differently (and, at two, your son won’t have much of a memory about it).  I bet she just may be as nervous about it as you are!

My one piece of advice is to be sure to carve out some time during the visit to renew yourself in whatever way works for you (for me that’s alone time). Even though the visit went well, it brought up a lot of different emotions for me.  It’s important to tend to yourself, too.