My daughter was placed with us at 2 months old. Her bmom was 40 when DD was born, and had hidden her pregnancy, and gave birth alone. She initially brought DD to the hospital with the intent of placing her through Safe Haven. Ultimately, she was connected with our agency and DD was placed in [...]
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for families and individuals who support openness in adoption
We honor the connection adoptees have to both of their families. We recognize the love and joy as well as the losses and grief of adoption. We do not diminish one family in favor of another. We are flexible, understanding that needs and circumstances change. We set boundaries on the basis of what is best for our children.
We understand that open adoption looks like different things for different families.
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When explaining your child’s adoption, has anyone said that it was ‘meant to be’?
My husband & I were both raised in the Christian faith. We’re not hugely religious, go to church on occassion, but we do still believe in God and that there is a plan for all of us. We believe that we were meant to be our childrens parents, that for some reason we were not [...]
Do you speak up when you disagree with other adoptive parents?
I’m not sure this is really an appropriate question for this forum, but I’m not sure where else to ask… As an a-parent, I belong to a discussion forum for support. Mostly it’s just day to day chat, adoption advice for newbies etc. Sometimes people post things that I think is unethical, or wrong, like [...]
How do you handle relationships with bio siblings?
Wondering how other adoptive parents have handled relationships between thier child through adoption and other children BP have. Our family is a make up of 4 bio boys and a daughter through adoption. We have an ongoing relationship with BP and maternal GPs. When we adopted 8 years ago BPs were very young & still [...]
Is having the extended first family at visits the norm?
We have two adopted children, both are open adoptions. With our first adoption, the birthmom was young and her mom was at all of our meetings. After our son was born and we visited, it was always with our birthmom and her mom, which we expected and were quite comfortable with. We now have a [...]
Should I be more proactive about building birthfather contact?
Our son, the Munchkin, is now 2 1/2 years old. When he was born his birthmom told us that his birthfather broke off all contact when he knew she was pregnant and hasn’t responded to her since. She recently mentioned trying to send him pictures of our son and that he didn’t reply, I think [...]
Will I always feel the need to measure up to a higher standard because my child is adopted?
My adopted son is nearly 2 years old. Since he was released from the hospital at 3 days old there have been very few times when he has not by in my direct care. Those times when I did leave him in the care of others it has either been my husband, my mother or [...]
Do I show interest or give them some space?
I’m a first parent in a functioning open adoption—we have a legal agreement, and in most respects, our contact goes above and beyond what the agreement outlines (e.g., the agreement is for one annual visit, and we’ve had two so far this year). However, there is one area in which the adoptive parents don’t follow [...]
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