These are a list of questions submitted by visitors to the site and answered by site members. If you are a registered user you can comment on the answers and offer your own $.02. We hope that this will foster thoughtful discussion for the benefit of our kids. If you would like to submit a question, please go here.
Adoptee Experiences
After the adoption
- Do I share enough? Too much?
- Why do we ultimately support Open Adoption?
- How do I heal a misunderstanding? Or should I let things go?
- My son calls us both mommy. Am I doing right by him?
- I found my child's first mom online; should I contact her?
- Grandparent rights after adoption?
- My agency is asking for more money, is this ok?
- Should I wait for them to contact me first?
- How do I decline a first parent's requests?
- What to do on Mother's Day?
- How do I reestablish contact?
- How do I know if my child's first mom is content with our open adoption?
- What if my child was conceived by rape?
- How do I navigate a long visit at our house?
- My child wants to know why he doesn't see his first mom anymore. What do I say?
- How can we get our son's birthfather to accept the adoption?
- How do I introduce my child's parents?
- Is it ok to ask for visits?
- How do I get enough emotional space to establish a relationship?
- I get anxious when the first families contact us. Is this normal?
- How can I get the grandparents to respect our family boundaries?
- How do I start a search?
- When does contacting first parents become hounding?
- Lending support to a firstmom in a closed adoption
- Could anyone tell me if adoption paper are public record?
- How do I talk to my child about adoption?
- We are having difficulties establishing boundaries with my daughter's fraternal birth grandparents.
- What do I do when my values about safety are different than my child's first family?
- My son would like to get to know me. However, the custodial parents are against the idea. What should I do?
- How can I encourage our son's first mom to write him a letter explaining how/why she gave up her child for adoption?
- "That's so nice of you..."
- How can I find a therapist who understands open adoption?
Before Adopting
Before Placing
From Adoptive Families
- Do I share enough? Too much?
- How do I heal a misunderstanding? Or should I let things go?
- My son calls us both mommy. Am I doing right by him?
- I found my child's first mom online; should I contact her?
- My agency is asking for more money, is this ok?
- Should I wait for them to contact me first?
- How do I decline a first parent's requests?
- What to do on Mother's Day?
- How do I go about adopting a friend's baby?
- How do I know if my child's first mom is content with our open adoption?
- What if my child was conceived by rape?
- How do I navigate a long visit at our house?
- My child wants to know why he doesn't see his first mom anymore. What do I say?
- How can we get our son's birthfather to accept the adoption?
- How do I get enough emotional space to establish a relationship?
- I get anxious when the first families contact us. Is this normal?
- How can I get the grandparents to respect our family boundaries?
- When does contacting first parents become hounding?
- Is it impossible to set out to create an open international adoption?
- Any adoption related kids books written from the natural mothers perspective?
- How do I talk to my child about adoption?
- We are having difficulties establishing boundaries with my daughter's fraternal birth grandparents.
- What do I do when my values about safety are different than my child's first family?
- How do we write a pro-openness adoption profile?
- I love my sister (my daughter's bio mom) but I don't want her in my daughter's life. How do I explain the relationship?
- I have a five year old daughter that has not seen her biological father since she was a year old. Now he wants to see her.
- How can I encourage our son's first mom to write him a letter explaining how/why she gave up her child for adoption?
- "That's so nice of you..."
