Open Adoption Support
for families and individuals who support openness in adoption
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Domestic Infant Adoption
Public Group active 1 day, 8 hours agoFor the discussion of openness in domestic infant adoptions for first and adoptive family members including but not limited to ethical agencies and lawyers, opening a semi-open or closed adoption and relationships with our children’s other family members.
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Amanda joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 1 day, 8 hours ago · View
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Kate. joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 2 months ago · View
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Cathy Walker posted an update in the group Domestic Infant Adoption: 3 months, 1 week ago · View
Hello everyone! I’m new to the group and wanted to introduce myself. We have been blessed with a baby boy, and are in the waiting phase currently (he’s almost three-weeks old). His birth mother still has to go to court to terminate her parental rights, and then we’re also dealing with the Interstate Compact and are waiting to get approval to take him home! I look forward to meeting others and sharing about our open adoption experience.
Welcome!
Hi Kyla!
Here’s a link for what the Interstate Compact is: http://www.thestork.com/intstate.html. As you’ll see, it basically happens when a child is born in one state and adopted by someone living in another state. My husband and I live in NC and our son was born in MI. We took temp. custody of him on the day he was born, and we brought him home from the hospital the next day. He’s been in our care since his birth.
In the state of MI there’s a 30-day period of time between the time paperwork is filed and when the birth parents go before the judge to terminate their rights. At the same time, the interstate happens and it takes between 2-4 weeks to go through.
So, while we’re waiting to bring him home to NC, we have had temp. custody of him. Once his birth mom goes before the judge (in a week or two), she will terminate her rights and then there’s a 21-day period of time in which she can change her mind, but really only in the case of fraud.
Interstate happens all the time and depending on the states, it can take longer or shorter. It’s not referred to as ”foster” at all in MI. It’s temporary custody, but basically we are acting as foster parents until the bm goes and signs over her rights.Does that make sense?
Cathy
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Cathy Walker joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 3 months, 1 week ago · View
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Liane Thatcher posted on the forum topic new here, and a question about agencies in the group Domestic Infant Adoption: 3 months, 1 week ago · View
we bypassed agencies and went the grass roots way, sending out several hundred letters to people we knew all over the USA asking for their help in connecting us w/an expectant mother. 9 yrs ago we met a couple w/in a month of sending out the letters and their son is now ours too. in [...]
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Leigh posted on the forum topic Gosh i feel silly…can someone tell me what Domestic Infant Adoption is?? xxxooo in the group Domestic Infant Adoption:
I am so sorry I only just saw this now! I need to log into this site more frequently
Well that is quite a doozy. Reading the additional details, I totally understand why you wouldn't want to reach out to A mom w/out first giving your daughter the opportunity to tell her, and/or also [...]9 months, 2 weeks ago · View
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Mama Kris posted on the forum topic Gosh i feel silly…can someone tell me what Domestic Infant Adoption is?? xxxooo in the group Domestic Infant Adoption:
Hi Leigh!
Thanks for your thoughtful response xxoo
I have given this a lot of thought too. Every minute of every day for the past 7 days! It's a toughy!
I have the privilege of seeing a side of M right now that her mother doesn't see. The facebook side.
M is very social, has a ton of [...]9 months, 3 weeks ago · View
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Leigh joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 9 months, 3 weeks ago · View
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Leigh posted on the forum topic Gosh i feel silly…can someone tell me what Domestic Infant Adoption is?? xxxooo in the group Domestic Infant Adoption:
Hi Mama Kris! I read this last night and have been giving my response some thought….
First of all, I'm so happy to hear that your daughter contacted you! That's a personal dream of mine (my b-daughter is only 8 though so I may have to wait awhile ) I would most certainly feel [...]
9 months, 3 weeks ago · View
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Mama Kris started the forum topic Gosh i feel silly…can someone tell me what Domestic Infant Adoption is?? xxxooo in the group Domestic Infant Adoption:
I am just now coming out of my denial about my adoption journey. I am a birthmom of 14 years.
I went thru a private attorney and an adoption mediation service – Gift of Life – in Florida.
I chose M's parents, interviewed them and they flew down when i gave birth. I have blocked out sooo
much [...]9 months, 3 weeks ago · View
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Mama Kris joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 9 months, 3 weeks ago · View
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Heather posted on the forum topic Organizations that support open adoption in the group Domestic Infant Adoption:
What a nice idea! Two that come to mind are the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute (http://www.adoptioninstitute.org) and Ethica (http://www.ethicanet.org). Both have publicly advocated open adoption and open records. They have non-profit status, so the gifts would be tax-deductible.
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Sarah started the forum topic Organizations that support open adoption in the group Domestic Infant Adoption:
Hi everyone,
Our baby girl is approaching her first birthday. We have a tradition in our family of selecting an organization/charity every year and then asking friends and family to consider a donation as part of or in lieu of gifts. I would love to select a charity for her first birthday that is related to [...]10 months ago · View
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Whitney joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 10 months, 2 weeks ago · View
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Angela Sanders joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 10 months, 2 weeks ago · View
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Aimee joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 10 months, 3 weeks ago · View
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Lorraine Failla joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 11 months, 1 week ago · View
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Sparky joined the group Domestic Infant Adoption 11 months, 3 weeks ago · View
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