Open Adoption Support
for families and individuals who support openness in adoption
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Foster-to-Adopt
Public Group active 1 day, 7 hours agoFor the discussion of openness in foster adoptions for first and adoptive family members including but not limited to dealing with the foster care system, opening a semi-open or closed adoption and relationships with our children’s other family members.
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Lynn posted an update in the group Foster-to-Adopt: 2 months, 1 week ago · View
Ok, not sure if I am posting this correctly… My adopted daughter’s older sister was recently placed with us. It looks like we will be adopting her as the SWs are recommendating termination of parental rights. She has a bond with her parents, kind of, but not a strong one. (Our theory is that her bond consists of ”mom and dad are people who give me stuff,” not ”mom and dad are people who care for me, love me and are there for me.” Anyway, she doesn’t really ask about them or talk about them; however, I am trying to figure out a way to tell her ”you aren’t going to live with your mom and dad anymore, we are going to be your mom and dad now” with her understanding and not getting upset. Or, is it better to just not say anything? She already intermittently calls us mom and dad. Any help based on prior experiences would be appreciated. Again, if I posted this incorrectly or in the wrong place, please let me know so I can re-post appropriately! Thanks!
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Betsy posted on the forum topic Hi – New Here in the group Foster-to-Adopt: 2 months, 2 weeks ago · View
I think it varies from state to state, but in Virginia no openess is mandated. In fact open adoption does not exist in the courts. Either you adopt or you don’t. However, I (and other adoptive parents) often choose to remain in contact. So I have no legal obligation. I was a foster parent, so [...]
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Betsy created the forum topic Hi – New Here in the group Foster-to-Adopt:
[p]Hello – [/p][p]I am the adoptive mom of my former foster son, now my son! He is 3 and we are maintaining a relationship with his birth mother.[/p][p]Not really sure how this site is working – didn’t it used to have forums? Maybe I just can’t find them.[/p][p]Anyway, if anyone is out there, [...]
1 year ago · View
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Betsy joined the group Foster-to-Adopt 1 year ago · View
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Lynn joined the group Foster-to-Adopt 1 year ago · View
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Heather wrote on the wire of the group Domestic Infant Adoption
Hello everyone. I’m Heather, I have 2 girls and we’re anxiously waiting for the birth of baby girl #3 in late August. Her Bmom is due August 28th. I’m SO excited but SO nervous to the point where I can’t think of anything but “what if”. Of interest, my husband was adopted as an [...]
1 year, 1 month ago · View
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rathmann joined the group Foster-to-Adopt 1 year, 2 months ago · View
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Lynn, our site has been kinda crazy for awhile. I’m replying to you here to see if it bumps this up.
Lynn,
How old is she? It is always best to say something. What you say would depend on her age. If she is young, somethng short and sweet like We are going to be your mom and dad forever and we will always love you and keep you safe.
If she is older, you may need to go into abit more detail and she will have a lot more questions. Just be straightforward and honest and make her feel loved and safe. Good Luck!