Open Adoption Support

I know, lots of people I know at work think it’s ‘weird’ that I go to see my son. I guess they think if I want to see him, then why didn’t I just ‘keep’ him in the first place. You’re awesome Jenna, you words always comfort me. You are so so right. I just [...]

Thank you!! those are awesome!! … I was ‘triggered’ by a radio show that I listened to. Dawn was in one, and as I was at the site I started listening to some of the others past shows. One made a remark about ‘confusion’ that boiled my blood. I am glad that I am not [...]

Hmmm…. that’s tricky!! I think you should talk with your sons first mom and tell her to talk to her own mom. I am a bit confused about the dynamics of this situation. Can you possibly tell us more?

*blushing* aaww…*totally loss of words* umm..thanks!! =)

I am a first(birth) mom and I just want to tell you that “open adoption” is not about how you feel. Your feelings are important, yes, and I understand that you are having a hard time. Open adoption is for the benefit of your child. It is so that your child will understand everything that [...]

personally, I don’t think that OP sons first mom is the type to stalk her, like the one you describe. I mean, she didn’t try and communicate, or anything… for almost a decade!! I think that limiting info would only devastate this first mom. Sure, you could leave out idenifing info if things felt a [...]

Heres advice from a real life firstmom. Write as much as you can, vagueness is always frustrating. Write as you would to your sister, cousin, former classmate, etc. Write as you would to an other average person about everything you can tell her. Include pictures, good ones, and yes, a phone call from your son [...]

I agree with Dawn. Personally, I would like to say that even though I love my son like theres no tomorrow, he doesn’t really like me either. I am ok with that, I know that my son is well-loved and that he might see me as a person that threathens the love he knows. Take [...]

Yeah, e-card are ok if they work. Unfortunatly my computer sees them as a virus and shuts down if I open an email with one in it. Or else they just don’t ‘work’ for me. For those that they work for, do it. I personally just more about the things you can actually touch and [...]

Honestly, it depends. I am kind of with you on the hoildays and such not being as big a deal as it is for some folks(who have more money to throw around) Mothers Day in my family has kind of been a big deal only because the church I grew up in always made it [...]

I am a first mom. My son is currently 4 years old. During the open adoption I have enjoyed with his family I have also been completely honest and open about it to my nieces(7,9) and my nephew(5). I hope that they get to meet my son one day too. Also, the first father and [...]

cindy Giesbrecht commented on the blog post How can I get the adoptive parents to stretch their boundaries?

I have to respond to this:
*Our reason, as hard as it may be for a biological mother to understand, is that as his parents, we need to be able to fully bond with him and feel that our psychological role of parents is sacred. If he’s having a bad day, for example, having temper tantrums [...]

  8 months, 2 weeks ago · View

cindy Giesbrecht commented on the blog post What do I do when his birth mom is inappropriate?

Yeah…that sounds scary!!
I would support the idea that you need to talk to you son. You likely have more influence on him than his first mom.
As a first mom I would just like to say that many times first moms are scared of talking with adoptive parents.
Being a first mom is a huge blow to [...]

  9 months, 2 weeks ago · View