Tag archives for boundaries

Do we have to send letters to grandparents?

Once again…I need some suggestions from others with more experience than myself…in regard to the bf’s mother. As I had previously posted, we have been having considerable “challenges” with the bf’s mother….everything from threats to guilt-trips to seething letters…and then she’ll act like nothing bad has ever transpired between us. (I suspect that she [...]

How can I get the adoptive parents to stretch their boundaries?

I was wondering how you deal with boundaries and respect in your doption? I am a birth mother, just two months into the adoption. While I was pregnant and going through the adoption process I was treated pretty nicely, everyone bent over backwards to make me happy. Now that it’s done, I’ve experienced a [...]

Lying to others about the adoption?

Once again I can not sleep because I keep thinking about something my daughter’s first mom said to us and I wonder if any other fm’s have done this and if it is, for lack of a better term, “normal”. FM has told all of her high school friends that the baby is in daycare [...]

Can I decide first family titles as the adoptive parent?

We have our daughter (aged 3) through a private arrangement with a birthmom. Her parents are well known to us and our circle of friends. Birth mom raised our daughter for a couple months, then placed her with us for temporary care, eventually agreeing to terminate her rights to facilitate adoption. Birth mom also has [...]