My daughter was placed with us at 2 months old. Her bmom was 40 when DD was born, and had hidden her pregnancy, and gave birth alone. She initially brought DD to the hospital with the intent of placing her through Safe Haven. Ultimately, she was connected with our agency and DD was placed in [...]
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How do I deal with overbearing grandparents?
Just wanted to get your thoughts on how others would handle this situation. For the past 4 years…been working with the bf and his very controlling/overly aggressive parents. The beginning of the adoption…well let’s just say we got off to a rough start. They threatened us, stalked us….and then we moved to a different state [...]
Birth mom doesn’t want us to have contact with birth dad. Now what?
Our children’s birth mother has an extremely acrimonious relationship with our daughter’s birth father’s family. We actually only learned of it a few months ago after the adoption was finalized and are not certain exactly what has happened and why. But we do now know that the birth father’s mother & sister objected to the [...]
Writing a letter for the first time?
First time here. Looking for suggestions. Any help would be appreciated. We adopted our son 9 yrs ago. At the time our son was born, we offered to have an open adoption and have as much or little contact w/ the birthmom as she wanted. She did not want to meet us. She said she [...]
Is there such a thing as too much contact?
Since my sons bmother completed her job training away from home..shes trying to turn her life around so ive been allowing her to spend a night here and there at my house..shes always respectful to me and the kids her moms home isnt very stable..drinking,,verbal abuse etc. shes come to church with us a couple [...]
A public event for a first meeting with our son’s first mom?
We have always wanted a fully open adoption with our son’s first mom but she was not comfortable with this. Over time we have had more contact — within the last year we learned her name, received a letter and photos from her and have text messaged with her. We send letters and photos once [...]
My child’s first mom ignored her birthday. How do I handle it?
Today is my daughter’s 4th birthday. When the mail came, I expected to receive something from both of her birthparents (or at least, to have received something BY today.) A package came from the birthfather. Nothing from the birthmother. I checked my e-mail, because in the past she at least sent her an e-card. Nothing. [...]
How do I go about opening a closed adoption?
My son, who is 2, was placed with us as a newborn in a closed adoption. We had wanted a fully open adoption, but his birthmom did not. Over these 2 years, we have sent letters and photos once a month. Initially these were held by the agency, but then the birthmom contacted them and [...]
Should I send this to my daughter’s birth mom?
I’m an adoptive mother to a 3.5 yr old daughter. Her birthmom is raising her three older brothers. And, I have a 7 yr old w/ another birthmom. The last few Christmas’s I’ve sent a big box of my son’s hand-me downs and a gift card to my daughter’s Birthmom. In the last year, I’ve [...]
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