Just wanted to get your thoughts on how others would handle this situation. For the past 4 years…been working with the bf and his very controlling/overly aggressive parents. The beginning of the adoption…well let’s just say we got off to a rough start. They threatened us, stalked us….and then we moved to a different state [...]
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How important is it to acknowledge Mother’s Day, Birthmother’s Day or other holidays?
How important is acknowledging Mother’s Day (or “Birthmother’s Day”) or really any traditional holiday? I ask because I come from a family that has never made a big deal about most holidays. Birthdays celebrations and gifts are for children only. And even for children it tends to be small gatherings and a very small number [...]
Is it ok to not save some things given by the birthparents?
Over the past fews months, our birthparents, especially our bm, have sent some things for our son that have seemed inappropriate or just weren’t in our taste. Are we required to save and/or use everything that they send? Some things have been broken religious artifacts, some have been clothing that we just don’t care for. [...]
How do I handle stealing?
where do i begin,, late on christmas my sons bmom slept over..all went well. The next day we went shopping with myself , her and all my kids. In macys, while i was purchasing a gift..she apparently stole a necklace that said Mother and later gave it to me! I didnt know she stole it [...]
Can I give gifts just to my son or do I need to include his parents other kids?
Is giving gifts to just my son, who was adopted by parents who also have a natural born child, enough? Or should I give gifts to that child as well, even though they say I don’t have too. Technically they say I don’t have to give gifts to my son too, but do they really [...]
Should I send this to my daughter’s birth mom?
I’m an adoptive mother to a 3.5 yr old daughter. Her birthmom is raising her three older brothers. And, I have a 7 yr old w/ another birthmom. The last few Christmas’s I’ve sent a big box of my son’s hand-me downs and a gift card to my daughter’s Birthmom. In the last year, I’ve [...]
How to handle too many gifts from first family?
My daughter’s birthfather and his parents have been sending/giving a lot of presents to our daughter since she was born. Her birthmother very rarely sends anything to her. Now that she is 3…she is very perceptive and aware of who gives her what and how many gifts are given to her by different people in [...]
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