We have two adopted children, both are open adoptions. With our first adoption, the birthmom was young and her mom was at all of our meetings. After our son was born and we visited, it was always with our birthmom and her mom, which we expected and were quite comfortable with. We now have a [...]
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for families and individuals who support openness in adoption
We honor the connection adoptees have to both of their families. We recognize the love and joy as well as the losses and grief of adoption. We do not diminish one family in favor of another. We are flexible, understanding that needs and circumstances change. We set boundaries on the basis of what is best for our children.
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How do I deal with overbearing grandparents?
Just wanted to get your thoughts on how others would handle this situation. For the past 4 years…been working with the bf and his very controlling/overly aggressive parents. The beginning of the adoption…well let’s just say we got off to a rough start. They threatened us, stalked us….and then we moved to a different state [...]
How do I handle people’s negativity about our daughter’s open adoption?
I don’t know if anyone else has a similar situation…but, until we adopted our little girl 4 years ago…no one in my family or my husband’s family had ever adopted a baby. So it was new, unfamiliar territory for everyone. And when they found out we were entering into an OPEN adoption, everyone pretty much [...]
Do we invite mom to be part of the relationship, too?
I recently opened our daughter’s adoption with her maternal grandparents (written contact between me and them only for now). We had no formal agreement with them or bio mom. We fostered to adopt our daughter through DCFS. Bio mom abandoned her for months, then made a few visits, relinquished her rights at the termination hearing [...]
How do I explain that her birth mom can’t or won’t see her?
We have an open adoption, our agency encouraged it and gave us some education…every year I send a letter and pictures to my daughter’s birthmother. We also buy her birthsisters Christmas gifts. We have always told my daughter the story of her adoption since she was a baby. The problem is, now age 7, my [...]
How do we say no to extended family involvement?
When we entered into the open adoption it was ONLY to be with biomother. Because of the whole dcf involvement, the grandparents never wanting contact, thats what we agreed. Today i got an email asking me to bring my son to his biograndmothers daughters bday party. shes turning 6. Honestly she rejected him by not [...]
Why would the bio grandparents not want to see their grandson?
So, awhile ago I dropped by my son’s bio grandmother’s shop to say hi. It was on my way and I just thought it’d be a nice surprise. She hasn’t seen him in awhile and I always get the feeling like she doesn’t want to ”bother” us. We have good relations w/ bparents as well. [...]
Grieving as a grandmother, where can I find help?
My daughter just released her son for adoption yesterday. I am so worried that she was misled by the agency and will have serious regrets. I know I do, but I am trying hard to support her. Where can I find the help that she and I both need?
First Grandparent is hostile, what to do?
My son’s bio grandfather wants to see him, but he has been very much against the adoption since placement happened over a year ago. He hasn’t really said or done anything extreme, but the 2 times he has seen his grandson he has not spoken a word to my husband or I and left us [...]
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