How do I tell my birthdaughter that I do not know for sure who her birthfather is? I was heavily drinking back then and had several relationships. I have always kept in touch with the adoptive family by letters and photos and when my birthdaughter turned 18 actually met her and have developed a wonderful [...]
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How do I talk about absent birth fathers?
We have good relationships, although very different from one another, with both of our kids’ birthmothers. We talk fairly often and have periodic visits. My kids’ birthfathers are a completely different story, however. We have no contact with either, and likely won’t, at least, not until the kids are older. One denies paternity, and the [...]
Lying to others about the adoption?
Once again I can not sleep because I keep thinking about something my daughter’s first mom said to us and I wonder if any other fm’s have done this and if it is, for lack of a better term, “normal”. FM has told all of her high school friends that the baby is in daycare [...]
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