Open Adoption Support » phone calls http://openadoptionsupport.com for families and individuals who support openness in adoption Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:18:28 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 How do I go about opening a closed adoption? http://openadoptionsupport.com/2009/12/03/how-do-i-go-about-opening-a-closed-adoption/ http://openadoptionsupport.com/2009/12/03/how-do-i-go-about-opening-a-closed-adoption/#comments Thu, 03 Dec 2009 14:23:43 +0000 Dawn http://openadoptionsupport.com/?p=863
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    • ]]>     My son, who is 2, was placed with us as a newborn in a closed adoption. We had wanted a fully open adoption, but his birthmom did not.  Over these 2 years, we have sent letters and photos once a month.  Initially these were held by the agency, but then the birthmom contacted them and asked for the letters.  At 1 year, she sent us a brief letter.  In the past year, we had heard nothing from her, but continued to send monthly updates.

    Then, much to our surprise, she sent us some photos and her phone number!  I exchanged several text messages with her and then talked on the phone with her for about 15 minutes.  It was very, very, VERY exciting although also a bit awkward — she’s one of the most important people in our lives and yet we had never seen or spoken to her before.  At the end of the call, she said to “call or text anytime.”

    I really, really want to grow this new relationship with her, but I don’t know how.  I don’t want to come on too strong but I don’t want to be too reserved.  Anyone BTDT?  Ideas or suggestions?

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