We have an open adoption, our agency encouraged it and gave us some education…every year I send a letter and pictures to my daughter’s birthmother. We also buy her birthsisters Christmas gifts. We have always told my daughter the story of her adoption since she was a baby. The problem is, now age 7, my [...]
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They haven’t even told my daughter she’s adopted. Now what?
I had never considered adoption for my daughter prior to being admitted to the hospital. My baby had suddenly decided to come early, and I did not have any support.
In the hospital, I was interrogated by an adoption lawyer and agency. This was while in the hospital bed, the day after my daughter was born. [...]
How do I go about opening a closed adoption?
My son, who is 2, was placed with us as a newborn in a closed adoption. We had wanted a fully open adoption, but his birthmom did not. Over these 2 years, we have sent letters and photos once a month. Initially these were held by the agency, but then the birthmom contacted them and [...]
When the adoption isn’t a secret, how do you tell people you don’t want to share?
Everyone who knows about the adoption (especially my parents and siblings, my friends to a lesser extent) asks me about it. Have I heard from the baby’s parents lately? Do I have any new pictures to show them? Will I have another visit soon?
If I haven’t gotten pictures, it reminds me that I haven’t gotten [...]
First Grandparent is hostile, what to do?
My son’s bio grandfather wants to see him, but he has been very much against the adoption since placement happened over a year ago. He hasn’t really said or done anything extreme, but the 2 times he has seen his grandson he has not spoken a word to my husband or I and left us [...]
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