First, let me say that my DD has an amazing birthfamily and they have truly given us so much more of a relationship than I ever dreamed we could have. We love them and want them to be involved in DD’s life as much as possible. We have done many, many day trips and other [...]
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First mom can’t meet. Should I worry?
OK….maybe I’m over-thinking this…but first my daughter’s birthmother ignores her 4th birthday. Now…I’ve been trying to set up our annual summer visit (our 1 visit a year) and, from what she told me, she will not be able to meet. Should I be worried?
We have had some great previous visits. I even thought our relationship [...]
How to tell her not to call herself “mommy?”
well i received a call from my sons bmother. she asked me..when i come down next weekend, can I take a picture with K? I said sure,,she wants to go to sears. She said..i never took a picture just mommy and son! Well, now, I am going to allow the picture BUT wondering how Im [...]
What do I do when his birth mom is inappropriate?
So Our oldest sons birth mother contacted him over the internet last year when he was 16. She knew how to get in touch with us and we had asked for an open adoption at his birth. She chose not to and then went behind our backs 16 yrs later, We have since met, I [...]
How do I deal with how much this hurts?
I have a little boy 17 months old and I also just gave four days ago to a beautiful baby boy who I have
given up for adoption to a wonderful family and the adoption is open and we are like family now as well. We talk everyday and though we are out of the hospital [...]
Do we have to send letters to grandparents?
Once again…I need some suggestions from others with more experience than myself…in regard to the bf’s mother. As I had previously posted, we have been having considerable “challenges” with the bf’s mother….everything from threats to guilt-trips to seething letters…and then she’ll act like nothing bad has ever transpired between us. (I suspect that she [...]
How can I get the adoptive parents to stretch their boundaries?
I was wondering how you deal with boundaries and respect in your doption? I am a birth mother, just two months into the adoption. While I was pregnant and going through the adoption process I was treated pretty nicely, everyone bent over backwards to make me happy. Now that it’s done, I’ve experienced a [...]
How to handle too many gifts from first family?
My daughter’s birthfather and his parents have been sending/giving a lot of presents to our daughter since she was born. Her birthmother very rarely sends anything to her. Now that she is 3…she is very perceptive and aware of who gives her what and how many gifts are given to her by different people in [...]
What do you do when she just won’t respond? I just don’t know when to give up.
My daughter’s first mom just doesn’t respond to questions especially regarding visits. We don’t talk on the phone often, never have. I wish we did but we’re all not very big phone people so we have done lots of emailing. I’m trying to set up a visit which requires booking flights and arrange for the [...]
How do we explain why one child has an open adoption and the other does not?
Hello. I have a question maybe someone who has a similar situation can help answer. My son is adopted. For reasons I will not go into here to protect my child’s privacy and his biological family, the biological family at their insistance does not have contact. My husband and I have recently been approached about [...]
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