Our son, the Munchkin, is now 2 1/2 years old. When he was born his birthmom told us that his birthfather broke off all contact when he knew she was pregnant and hasn’t responded to her since. She recently mentioned trying to send him pictures of our son and that he didn’t reply, I think [...]
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Is there such a thing as too much contact?
Since my sons bmother completed her job training away from home..shes trying to turn her life around so ive been allowing her to spend a night here and there at my house..shes always respectful to me and the kids her moms home isnt very stable..drinking,,verbal abuse etc. shes come to church with us a couple [...]
How can I prepare for a long visit?
First, let me say that my DD has an amazing birthfamily and they have truly given us so much more of a relationship than I ever dreamed we could have. We love them and want them to be involved in DD’s life as much as possible. We have done many, many day trips and other [...]
First mom can’t meet. Should I worry?
OK….maybe I’m over-thinking this…but first my daughter’s birthmother ignores her 4th birthday. Now…I’ve been trying to set up our annual summer visit (our 1 visit a year) and, from what she told me, she will not be able to meet. Should I be worried? We have had some great previous visits. I even thought our [...]
How to tell her not to call herself “mommy?”
well i received a call from my sons bmother. she asked me..when i come down next weekend, can I take a picture with K? I said sure,,she wants to go to sears. She said..i never took a picture just mommy and son! Well, now, I am going to allow the picture BUT wondering how Im [...]
What do I do when his birth mom is inappropriate?
So Our oldest sons birth mother contacted him over the internet last year when he was 16. She knew how to get in touch with us and we had asked for an open adoption at his birth. She chose not to and then went behind our backs 16 yrs later, We have since met, I [...]
How do I deal with how much this hurts?
I have a little boy 17 months old and I also just gave four days ago to a beautiful baby boy who I have given up for adoption to a wonderful family and the adoption is open and we are like family now as well. We talk everyday and though we are out of the [...]
Do we have to send letters to grandparents?
Once again…I need some suggestions from others with more experience than myself…in regard to the bf’s mother. As I had previously posted, we have been having considerable “challenges” with the bf’s mother….everything from threats to guilt-trips to seething letters…and then she’ll act like nothing bad has ever transpired between us. (I suspect that she MIGHT [...]
How can I get the adoptive parents to stretch their boundaries?
I was wondering how you deal with boundaries and respect in your doption? I am a birth mother, just two months into the adoption. While I was pregnant and going through the adoption process I was treated pretty nicely, everyone bent over backwards to make me happy. Now that it’s done, I’ve experienced a fall [...]
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