Hello. I have a question maybe someone who has a similar situation can help answer. My son is adopted. For reasons I will not go into here to protect my child’s privacy and his biological family, the biological family at their insistance does not have contact. My husband and I have recently been approached about [...]
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What do I call my child’s older birth siblings?
Hi. I’m new here and happy to have your support. We have an open adoption with my son’s birthmother (and my daughter’s birth mom as well) and are planning a visit soon which will include his older sisters by birth which live with his birthmom and a younger brother who also lives with his birthmom. [...]
How do I explain without bad-mouthing?
We just got back from attending DS’s fmom’s wedding, and a visit with fdad, his girlfriend and his parents. Everything went really well, DS was in the wedding as a junior attendant with the grooms nephew as well as the bride’s nephew (DS’s cousin), DS met a lot of relatives for the first time and [...]
What name does the first family use with the adopted child?
We have decided to call our 9 month old daughter’s fm by her first name and begin explaining adoption as “you came out of Nicole’s tummy” but how does your fm’s refer to the child? So far Nicole has been calling her “her daughter” which yes she is biologically, but we are not comfortable with [...]
Fear of stalking?
does anyone else have a situation where you need to keep yr home location and personal info secret from yr child’s birthmom? my daughter’s birthmother is very mentally unstable and becomes very fearful when she’s not doing well. So her family and the social workers suggested that we keep our address, phone number, daycare location [...]
First father is dangerous and contacting us, what do I do?
As some of you know, we have an open adoption with my sons biomother. we got my son from foster care when he was 3 mths old. weve had our ups and downs but over all she and i make it work. the biofather has his rights terminated because he never showed up for court,, [...]
Why would the bio grandparents not want to see their grandson?
So, awhile ago I dropped by my son’s bio grandmother’s shop to say hi. It was on my way and I just thought it’d be a nice surprise. She hasn’t seen him in awhile and I always get the feeling like she doesn’t want to ”bother” us. We have good relations w/ bparents as well. [...]
Grieving as a grandmother, where can I find help?
My daughter just released her son for adoption yesterday. I am so worried that she was misled by the agency and will have serious regrets. I know I do, but I am trying hard to support her. Where can I find the help that she and I both need?
my daughter birthmom is having serious grief issues, but I don’t know how much I can help?
hello our daughter will be 5 soon, and her birth aunt (sister of birthmom) emailed me today telling me that J. is having a really hard time about reliquishment and thought I would want toknow. J. has had a really chaoitic life, with a history of abuse, and I often wondered how much she had [...]
What if the birthparents want to be called mom and dad?
We recently had our son’s birthparents over for his first birthday. We haven’t really talked much about names, but I always assumed he would call them their first names. They signed their birthday card to him “mom and dad.” It was really strange looking to me. I mean, I know they ARE his parents, but [...]
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